While these two types may struggle, they may also balance each other out by being able to get things done and also foresee future issues.
The INTJ prefers intuition to sensing (Through Introverted Intuition).
While the ESFP wants to be admired, he or she doesn’t necessarily needs or wants others’ approval.
Another possible point of conflict is that ESFPs aren’t particularly hard workers, and although they enjoy spending and showing off, working and earning may seem bothersome.
Being capable of understanding and meeting emotional needs of other people is one of the ESFP’s greatest gifts. Because they are so people-oriented, they want to impress others with their clothes, cars, homes, pictures of exotic vacations posted on social media.I'm an INTJ and naturally have no idea concerning your first question. However, if you're referring to social activities, I recommend limiting such suggestions to places where a guaranteed distraction from other people is in place to increase the odds he'll accept. INTjs do not want to be dominated by an ESFP's introverted feelings. It can be assumed he doesn't care what anybody (it's not meant personally, but yourself included) thinks of his actions so your best bet of getting him to do something is the gun-to-head technique.However, they can also be good to balance each other out, allowing the extravert to feel more comfortable introspecting, and the introvert has someone to encourage them to socialize and try new things more often. The INTJ is energized by alone time and will use it to help sort out their thoughts.The INTJ seeks to understand patterns and underlying meanings behind what people say and do. The ESFP gets energized by people and wants to take in the world through their five senses to better experience it.